Your Emotions Are In Your Hands.....Express Them With Caution! You Have The Power!

I found this post on my Instagram feed and it is about activating our happy hormones or endorphins at those times when we are feeling less than cheerful about one thing or another (see link below), but I think this can also be used for people who are in an emotionally charged situation and you usually turn to alcohol, drugs, sex or porn, food, shopping, crime, depression, anxiety, anti-social behaviors, cutting or other self-harm, jealousy (the consumption of it that is that causes evil behavior), black magic, satanic worship, or anything else in excess that can cause harm to you or someone else. We have to remember emotions are there to test how we respond to different situations and circumstances, emotions can make or break our reputation so choose your response with wisdom, and emotions make us aware that something needs to change or be addressed so we can resolve it or feel better about what we are experiencing, not worse. Your emotions are under your control completely and that means if you respond negatively to something and emotionally then you are allowing your emotions to control you instead and they cannot thrive unless you give them the power to. So, males, since you are not as equipped as a female to manage your emotions because of societal norms (what a word) or because your parents or friends or someone else told you it’s not ok to cry and just go have sex with someone and you will be ok, then this is especially for you. If you go around behaving in a way that makes you want to prove how masculine and powerful you are, the moment you choose to take sex out of context and turn it into an outlet for your emotions, which means using a body to deal with your emotions, then you become powerless, you become like a monster, you become weak and there is no power nor masculinity in weakness. You give women power over your emotions or whomever or whatever you choose to let out your emotions on or in. You are basically saying “I can’t handle anything without your body right here to soothe me so I need you to take care of what I am going through”. That’s what you are saying and that means you are giving all of your power to a female and telling her you can’t handle life and it’s ups and downs so you do it for me. If women or girls saw this and were keen to what you are really saying and doing when you pick up the phone and call “a friend” for a booty call when you can’t deal with something the less likely they will say yes. Females, you are telling men that I have it all under control for you, just use my body and you will be ok so they do and it has gotten so out of hand that we have sex traffickers getting money so nasty monstrous males in the world can release their emotions on an innocent body. They don’t care what your face looks like, they don’t care what your favorite color is nor what your favorite t.v. show is, all they want is something to release their emotions and if you let them then they will think it is ok and every female they see they will expect that from. 

So, if they meet someone who doesn’t allow this or who lives differently than the average female they become confused because they don’t understand why she would say no, why she would turn him away when “the female is here to soothe my anger, my suffering, my joy, my insecurity, my frustrations, and on and on” This is what we have taught the male and our sons are growing up to do the same thing, watching porn and seeing females give in to inhuman acts of sexual pleasure and they look at the female body and say that is what she is supposed to give me so they expect it and then our young females grow up believing “if I don’t do this, if I say no then no guy will ever want me and this is how I get attention (and this is the number 1 thing a female needs from a male is attention but in a healthy and sweet way) and females know this but men have taught them that sure they will get the attention they want but you have to do this and that and this first. So this is the way of life now and as I have observed human behavior I think it is quite sad to wake up in the morning and feel like a piece of meat, like a body that is there to please and soothe a man’s emotions more than please and soothe his heart. What a sad world and I hope to God that when Jesus does return to this Earth that He encourage us to change this behavior because it kills the true dynamic and purpose for the male/female relationship and that is to support each other and be friends and make love not war with the body. If females took dildos and fake penises or objects and said “I need you right now Tommy, I am emotional, I can’t deal with this, just turn over and lay there for me for a little bit and stuck that up your butthole I doubt you would say yes and be gungho about them doing that. You would feel violated like you don’t matter, like you are being used and then you would get it and maybe you would change your tune about having to have that “tight” feeling with someone’s butthole and you would feel better about treating a woman like a female and not like a dog. As far as I am concerned it’s gay sex because this is how homosexuals do it and that means ladies, your “man” could be out there on the down low (it’s not even down low anymore) doing some guys at a party or in the dark parked somewhere and you are not there to see it. You don’t know, if all they need is that “tight” feeling to feel better they can get that anywhere especially if you say yes all the time or most of the time and you really want to say no. 

Males, please find a better way to get what you want by dealing with what you are going through like a man, not like a punk or a monster. Plus you have a hand just use it wisely and not excessively so you don't get addicted. There are so many different ways to soothe your emotions but it starts with controlling them in the first place and managing them so you can have some self-respect and dignity and see women in a different light, like beautiful beings that deserve to ask for what they want, that have the right to say no and not be afraid you will threaten to rape their kids, or do their girlfriends who would say yes or beat them up, they are golden beings, worthy of love and respect and kindness, able to give you what you need and want without demeaning them. God created woman as helpmates and that does not mean slaves and it does not mean “men are the head of the  household”, it means to stand beside you and honor you as their king, and be ready to please you in a way that pleases her too so you can please her in a way that pleases you too. Females are roses and they should be seen that way because they need gentility, they need you to be patient, and kind and worthy of what they want and choose to give you. Don’t resign us to a body that you can shove your penis into and get some tight good pleasure. Don’t resign us to getting on our knees and almost vomiting so you can see our heads down below bobbing back and forth so you can throw your head back and close your eyes and not even “see” her anymore. Sex was created to be shared and enjoyed by both parties and that means she should feel good about what you are doing to her like you should feel good about what she is doing to you. It's not a one man show unless you are masturbating. Our mouths are sacred places too and I know you may hate me for saying this but we have mouths to eat and survive not to have bodily functions secreted on our tongue or down our throats or inside of our cheeks. 

I think we all need to rethink the whole “sex” thing and sure experiment and have fun with it but do it with respect for the person you are with so you can have respect for yourself when it’s over. The best way to do this is in a marriage but I know people don’t like to wait for that and it’s sad because what you do outside of marriage is pretty much the same inside a marriage, and if we waited more often we would see the sanctity of marriage in a different light and be less likely to repeat Sodom and Gomorrah orgy parties and sexually deviant behavior. It causes shame and guilt, STD’s and unwanted babies and that means we are not doing what we really want to do nor getting what we really want to get unless we have respect enough to ask for it. Find a way to keep your body sacred and mysterious so your man or woman will wonder about you, will desire all of you and not just one or two parts of your body that will give them pleasure. Study the sex organs of the opposite sex and save what you study for that one person who you can wow and excite the right way in the right context as God intended. Find a way to deal with your emotional stuff and baggage and feel better about how you express how you feel. Because sex for emotional gratification has become an act of violence and an act of war against another body and your own body just to feel better about something that will still be there when it’s all over with. Ladies if a man tells you he is in love with another woman, don’t beg him to bed you so he will feel better about his emotions that he feels for her or so you can steal him away because “you had him first before she did”. That’s foolish behavior and makes you look like a dumb whore because you can’t take feelings of love away from a man by giving him feelings of physical pleasure. Love is not physical, it’s spiritual and metaphysical which means you can’t really touch it and you can’t “get rid of it”. It’s just there and you need to express it in a healthy way first that has nothing to do with sexual or physical pleasure so you will be better equipped to express it physically later and make sure the one you love knows that you love her and not what she can do for you or how she can make you feel. When he leaves your side or your bed he will be thinking of her again and again and again because his heart has taken over, not his penis. You may have wowed his penis for a little while (by the way, anyone can do that) but it’s not enough for him to give up what he feels so strongly for someone else so he can keep getting his penis wowed. What about his heart and his time and his face and his hands and his likes and his dislikes and his kids if he has any and his sense of humor and what makes him laugh and how does he really like his eggs and what is his favorite color? Does he give that to you, does he share this with you and does he ask you about any of this outside of desiring a desperate and feigned emotional connection with someone?

These things he may never tell you propped on top of him riding the night away in a passionate heat of the moment encounter. He wants to tell this stuff to the one he is in love with because he wants to look her in the eye and gaze lovingly at her, watch her walk away wondering what their children will look like and where is she going, see her from a distance and be excited all over his body to touch her skin and her face again and kiss her lips and linger on them, he doesn’t want that with you because you didn’t offer any of that to him in the first place,  you gave him what he needed to deal with from an emotionally charged situation so you taught him that is all you are there for and men need more than that like women need more than their buttholes and mouths sexed up. Use wisdom with the other sex and find a positive way to handle and manage and deal with what you are feeling and I guarantee you will feel better about yourself, you will feel confident and worthy enough to approach the woman that seems out of your league and you will feel at peace that you treated your body, your spirit and your mind well and really that is what all of us need in love, in relationships and especially in marriage to have our bodies, minds and spirits loved and well taken care of by the one who wants to do the work to make sure we get that, so we can do the work in turn to make sure they get that too. Sex is not enough.  Elevate your mind and wait for the one who can help you do that too and that person will take you higher to a place that no crazy and wild sex game or sex act can ever take you. How boring! Check out the image for ways to express what you are feeling or to get a natural high and release hormones that are already there inside each of us. Drugs and sex or orgasms, food, alcohol can mimic some of these but not all of them and nowhere on this list do you even see the act of sex (I love her, how cool is that) and that means it is an asset to what we already possess to soothe ourselves and soothe others. If you feel strong emotions for a female then tell her slowly and gently, don't beg her to have sex with you because then you kill the ebb and flow and every relationship needs that, it's natural to the success of the involvement, so allow things to ebb and flow and if that means waiting for it then wait and it will be better because you did. Express yourself with caution and ease so she feels safe with you and delighted that you were brave enough to share your heart with her because this is not easy for men, it's easy for women. Tell her or she will cut you loose because you took too long. And, I encourage you to refrain from developing emotional connections with other people so you can "talk about what you are feeling" because you will get stuck there and then that means you have nothing to express nor talk about with the one you really want to talk to. Emotional connections even without sex (and they usually turn into sexual relationships) are dangerous if you are talking to someone neutral who is separate from what you are feeling, this happens at work all the time and this is how affairs start. So use caution with your opposite sex friends they may interfere in something sacred that you may never embark upon if you talk too much.

Also, drugs, sex, food and alcohol cause addictions that make us sick because it’s too much hormone, it’s an overdose of something natural that is already in the brain and that we can awaken with natural acts that are safe. So, I hope I have encouraged you to see yourself and others and emotions in a better light and men, boys, teenagers please try your hardest to see females in a more respectable light and if she seems slutty or whorish test her and treat her differently and she may surprise you and give you what you thought you didn’t want from her. Women, girls, teenagers, please try your hardest to see males in a more respectable light and if he seems like all he wants is your body remember you are more than just a body and test him and see if he will allow you to show him more of you before he sees you intimately. You have a brain, show it. You have wants and needs express them non-physically in the beginning, you have likes and dislikes, share them in a way that lets a man know you are interested in you before you are interested in him. Tootles………

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cea9A2YMnWK/ - Please click this link, you might be surprised at what you are not doing to help you soothe your emotions or feel better about one thing or another.....