Being A Man 101!

 

  

Being a MAN 101

If you intend to attract your soulmate or true love or good real friendships this is the way to do it, I guarantee it will work! Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose, except the wrong person!

 

 

1. Self-love – this is extremely important. If you don’t love yourself, what you look like, who you are, what you can do, etc. then you cannot love anyone right. You need to take care of you and love what you see when you look in the mirror, be happy with the actions you took daily and what you said or did to and for others and for yourself. Take care of you so you can take care of others otherwise you will repel people and lose friends and relationships will suffer and you will be miserable. You must come first and when you ask God for help ask God to help you learn to love yourself, check out Pinterest and look for a pin about 31 ways to practice self-love; loving yourself will make you sparkle and glow and people will want to be near you and be in your glow and circle. Let the circle of love start with you.

2. Music - music is healing and can be therapy if you allow it to be and sometimes men get angry and lash out or run to something that is unhealthy or dangerous and addictive. I say turn up the volume on your favorite tunes and let it soothe you and calm you down. It works like a charm.

3. Food – eat good and healthy food so you stay strong and keep your stamina up – food makes or breaks your day and your life – treat yourself right and make eating healthy a daily habit (at least 3 healthy and well balanced meals a day), you will feel much better about who you are and about what you can do in life and you will glow.

4. Hygiene – self-explanatory and hugely important – no woman wants a man that doesn’t take care of his hygiene from top to bottom – please shower every day and make sure your nails are clean. I recommend getting pedicures and hand massages (nothing wrong with this).

5. Friendship – it’s important to always be a good friend, be there when your friends need you and they will be there when you need them if they are true friends. Spend time with them, check up on them, offer to help when they need it, and express your love and camaraderie as often as possible. It’s hard to find a true friend in this day in age but it starts by being one yourself. Cherish the people you have in your life and be genuinely interested in them, their lives and what they have to say. Also, men, it’s great to have female friends but do your best to stay on the friendship zone without benefits, it seems people want to cross that line and ruin their friendships. If you are meant to be you will be but respect your female friends, don’t get in their way when they are interested in other men or dating, and be a soft place to land when the men in their lives treat them like crap or break their heart.

6. Connection to God – first and foremost, prayer is huge – (my homemade prayer guide is on Slideshare, just ask and I will send you the link or you can get a copy on my Facebook Jesus net page at www.facebook.com/thejesusnet look under the “Services” or “Offers” tab) – ask for help and build a consistent and daily relationship with God if you desire to do so. Men who are close to God are super sexy because I know they will love me and respect me and go out of their way to help me if I need them. So serve God and put God first before everything else in your life and the right lady will surely come along. Also, make it a practice to read your Bible and go to church as much as possible. This is the sexiest thing a man can every do because his connection and relationship will God will determine how he treats others and lives his life.

7. Privacy – keep other people’s business and personal life and information confidential and private including your own – some people like to harm others and steal when they get jealous or see something or know something they want or want to destroy – so don’t go around blabbing about something you know should be kept secret. If you want people to stay out of your business, then stay out of theirs.

8. Family – stay close to your family and treat them with respect and dignity, support them, forgive them but don’t put up with evil from any of them, no one deserves that. Be a good brother, cousin, uncle, boyfriend, husband and friend.

9. Transportation – I know sometimes it’s tough and circumstances may force you to take public transportation, nothing wrong with that…however, a man with a car is a man on a mission, and women love this so go out of your way to make sure you have your own transportation as soon as possible even if it’s not the latest and greatest.

10. Finances – make sure you provide for yourself and are able to afford what you need and want in life – there are gold diggers out there but again, a man with financial security is very sexy too, it lets a woman know he can provide for himself and anyone else when he is ready to.

11. Career/Work – do your best to find the career or work that makes you feel good about yourself and where you can serve others and support your lifestyle. I love a man who is on a mission to serve others and loves going to work on Monday because he knows he is making a difference. So love what you do or do something else.

12. Remorse – apologize in person, letter, email or by phone to anyone you have harmed in any way – it takes courage to say your are sorry so be brave and let it rip, you will be more respected when you admit you were wrong and it’s not weakness, it’s strength. Dedicate the song Sorry by Justin Bieber to the one you have hurt because I know men have a tendency to be afraid to apologize (call it an ego thing)…men, women will adore you if you know how to say you are sorry like JB.

13. Brain – take care of your brain by letting go of addictions like drugs, alcohol and cigarettes and marijuana (yes marijuana is bad for the brain – look it up, brainy guys are sexy not stoners)  – do brain teasers and play games to strengthen your brain and eat good and healthy food. (Cauliflower and walnuts work wonders for the brain – they actually look like the brain so that should tell you something).

14. Physique – take care of your body by exercising and doing what you need to stay strong and healthy – you might have to pick up kids one day or lift heavy objects for your significant other or pick up your significant other and carry her over the threshold, up the stairs, over a puddle of water or mud (so sexy) or to the hospital if she is in need of medical attention, or anywhere. Your body is your temple so make sure you take good care of the home you are housed in every day 24/7. You cannot be someone that you are not. If you were to try to take over some other man or woman’s body because you hate yourself or your body you that person would still look like them. You would not be able to make them move or do what you want them to do because you are in the wrong body and there is no mind, body and spirit connection naturally. So stop wondering and wishing you looked like someone else or could be someone else. You were born with your temple so you and only could inhabit it and take care of it. Do your body good. Women love a sexy and well-toned physique on a man and we know you care about your body and want to look good

15. Self-Control – it is important to always have self-control, you don’t want to hurt someone or yourself or do something you will regret tremendously later because you couldn’t control your tongue or your actions. Practice this every day and make sure you learn how to manage your emotions because if you can’t anything goes and that’s dangerous for you and anyone around you. Men rape women because they do not know how to control their emotions and they are taking out their anger and frustration on them. Don’t do this, respect a woman’s body, that is her temple and you wouldn’t want a woman to grab a knife every time she gets angry or frustrated and start stabbing you would you, so keep your hands to yourself until you are invited to touch. All men know what that means.

16. Authenticity (Be yourself) – this is HUGE! It is unattractive when you try to be someone or something that you are not, so do yourself and everyone else a favor and let people be who they are and you be who you are. You will gain more friends and be happier with who you are when you learn to love yourself and get to know who you really are. I recommend reading up on your zodiac sign and rising sign, taking some personality tests, finding out what your interests are, etc.

17. Protection – Keep yourself and the ones you love SAFE!! Make sure you are always protecting those that you claim to love. Actions speak louder than words, so take care of your loved ones, keep them safe from harm and danger. Evil lurks on every corner.

18. Compliments - Always wish the best for everyone – if someone you know does something amazing celebrate them and wish them well, it looks good on you and you move closer to the object of your affection and your friendships will blossom and people will like you more and want to be around you.

19. Squash jealousy – everyone gets jealous at some point but the challenge is not to let it consume you. You need to squash it so you don’t go around harming someone because they have something you want or because you want to be better than they are. Be yourself, you have your own talents and abilities, you are amazing just because you were born and you have to go after what you want in life without the desire to harm someone or take something that doesn’t belong to you or that you didn’t work for yourself. You don’t have the right to do that. If you are too jealous of someone I suggest letting them go and staying far away from them so you can let the jealousy go. If you are jealous of a woman because she seems more successful than you are or more brilliant then you owe it to yourself to learn from her. I am sure you have some brilliance to contribute to the relationship that she would be delighted to learn about. If you spend all of your time focused on what she is doing to the point of attempting to sabotage her then you will probably lose your mind, your friends, your job, and possibly your life and self-respect. It’s just not worth it. Women can be brilliant, wealthy, famous and beautiful and if you happen to find someone like that you have found a jewel. Take care of her and cherish her contribution and her heart. You can show her off without making her feel like a trophy by bragging about how amazing she is and all your guy friends will wonder how in the world can they get a woman like that because they will think you are a very lucky guy. Don’t let jealousy get in the way of true love.

20. Patience – a patient man is hard to find so this will enhance your masculinity if you know how to wait for what you want in life and allow others to come to you when they are ready. Force and coercion is not sexy. Wait and it will be all the more sweeter when you get what you want because you will be ready for it and it will help you grow and blossom spiritually and as a man! Ebb and flow is worth watching and waiting for.

21. Fun – if you don’t know how to have fun and be silly and enjoy yourself and your life you will be miserable. So don’t be a stick in the mud because you are so afraid of what someone will think of you. Let your hair down, be goofy and funny and find tons of ways to have fun (without alcohol, drugs, or sex). Use your imagination and don’t forget to ask others you hang out with what they like to do for fun, you just might enjoy it, so take a risk and do something different, be a kid again and learn how to play. Now that’s sexy!

22. Integrity – this one is huge too. Be as honest as you can possibly be about who you are, what you are doing and what you know about others. Lying makes you ugly and you have to constantly keep up with your lies. Some men think it’s cool to lie or easy to lie so they can get away with stuff or make themselves seem more interesting. It’s not cool, not easy and it doesn’t make you look more interesting if the person you are lying to finds out or catches you in a lie. I think it’s better to not have done amazing things in your life and be honest about it so you can do those amazing things with someone special. Then you actually have a true story to tell. Don’t make up things to impress a woman, we want to know you have flaws and make mistakes and you have learned from those mistakes and you aren’t perfect, because you are not. It’s okay, it’s cool, chill and have some integrity so women and other people will respect you and trust you and look up to you and know they can count on you. When you are very insecure or just flat out bored or maybe you have a special spiritual ability like tapping into the psyche of other people, then it can be easy to mess around with women and test them. However, if you don’t want someone doing it to you then don’t do it to them. Women are fragile and they deserve respect so be careful with crossing boundaries and testing people to the point of physical, mental or emotional pain. No one deserves that. Do the right thing all the time and the right thing will be done to you and not only that you will find the one you are meant to be with because she will have integrity too. If you don’t have integrity then it will be difficult to catch her and hold on to her…don’t forget that!

23. Dating – Some men want to jump the gun if they meet someone amazing and get right to the relationship thing. Whoa, slow your roll, give a woman time to get to know you, the real you. Wining and dining is good even if you don’t have a ton of money. There are so many free activities you can do on a date. And if you don’t have a car so what, you can get one later. As a woman, and not a gold digger, I think it’s cool to get involved with someone who is going somewhere in life and that means they don’t have everything they want right now. It takes time, a man can be in a hard place and working on getting in a good and soft place. So, I think that is fine as long as he has plans and goals and is busy sometimes. If she is worth your time she won’t make a big deal out of it and that means she is more interest in your heart and your brain than your wallet and what kind of car you drive. So, men use your imagination and the pursuit of a woman over a period of time without rushing her is sexy. There are so many insecure women in the world who think if they jump into bed with a man then he will stay with her and the relationship is sealed but I don’t believe men want to marry an easy woman. If she is easy with him she is probably easy with everyone. So date, date, and again, date. It’s fun, you can be adventurous outside of closed doors and you can find out some really amazing things about the woman you have affection for. Don’t rush anyone. Give them time because I don’t believe you would want anyone to rush you. Don’t worry about someone else stealing her away from you because if that happens that means it wasn’t meant to be and you just got saved from having a miserable relationship. If she can easily be stolen from you then she doesn’t deserve you in the first place. So date and allow the ebb and flow of things to evolve. Give it a chance and have fun seeing what happens in the future.

24. Strength – women can smell a strong man a mile away. You don’t want to hide your strength because a woman needs to feel safe and if she knows you are strong she will gravitate towards you and trust you. She will trust that you can get through anything and deal with whatever comes  your way without self-destructing or whining like a baby all the time so she can mother  you. You want to make sure you display your strength without being arrogant or over bearing because women don’t need Neanderthals or cavemen, we want you to have physical strength of course but more importantly you need to prove that you won’t allow life or anyone in your life to break you down or make you lose your mind. That doesn’t mean don’t show your weaknesses and walk around all macho all the time. If you feel safe to shed some tears in front of people or a woman then I say do so. That lets women know you are a sensitive man and you know that crying can make you feel better from time to time. Many men turn to alcohol and drugs and too much sex to feel better about their circumstances and no real, good, strong man needs to do all that. It causes you heartache and suffering, it will never solve your problems. 

When a man falls in love he has to be strong enough to deal with all of those crazy emotions that come to surface and make him want to hold on to that one woman and only that one woman. That is not easy for a man because men don’t deal with their emotions like a woman. So that means men can do some crazy stuff in pursuit of the woman of his dreams. If you are not strong enough to handle what you are feeling then you can self-destruct or end up in the arms of the wrong woman and break your own heart. It’s also important to be a strong father to your children because kids test their parents all the time and if you don’t have the strength to deal with those tests you may abandon your child or harm them. Even if you are unemployed or dealing with an addiction or have no home or car you still have to be the father you made yourself to be. You did that and your strength is important for your child to see no matter what your circumstances are. Your kids will be watching how you handle life and women and their mom and things that go bump in the night. Will you stick around, will you hit mom, will you take off and give up on your family, will you get addicted to some foreign substance that messes up your head and life, will you mess around with other women or men, will you lose your mind and end up homeless, or will you become lazy and lackadaisical in disciplining yourself and your children? Your strength as a father is huge. 

Some men even feel like they can hit a woman or rape a woman or control her so they can appear strong and powerful and all of those are signs of weakness so you don’t ever want to go there and expect to be called a man. Physical or emotional harm towards a woman is not strength. So even if you came from a childhood of abuse or ridicule or had a dad that made you feel like less than a male or a mom that babied you all the time to the point of super neediness, you can still choose how you behave as a man towards a woman and pretty much anyone. Strength is in your demeanor, in your eyes, in your resolve, in your attitude towards a woman. If you get bad news or someone breaks your heart or your mom or dad dies, or your child turns on you, or you lose your job and you avoid picking up a bottle of alcohol or a cigarette or marijuana or a prostitute….that is strength.

25. Be Fearless – so this doesn’t mean go walking down dark allies with gangsters and challenging them all the time. Leave that to God. What I mean is if you do have fear, move through it and show your courage. Be brave when you need to step up and do something and that includes practicing the golden rule every day all day long. Women love men who don’t have a lot of fear and that means in telling them how they feel, what they want, approaching people, telling people the truth, being bold and supporting and taking care of their responsibilities. That also includes living life in general. I have encountered men who want to stay boys because they are afraid to get out there in the world and just live life with all its ups and downs. Just live and be grateful you were given the blessing of life. Fear can destroy your miracles and hinder you, stop you in your tracks and you can miss out on something truly amazing that may not last forever, but it could change your life for the better and make you a better man or person. So be bold, and if you have fear ask God for help to get rid of it because none of us were given the spirit of fear. That’s satan’s method of operation, he is afraid of everything that’s why he is so evil and I don’t believe any man wants to be like that or live like that. Boldness is sexy!

 

The best to you!

BTW, when I say “sexy” I am not always referring to sex in general. It doesn’t mean just because you are patient or taking care of yourself a woman will automatically want to jump into bed with you. When I say sexy, I mean attractive, manly, amazing, wonderful, super cool and dreamy.

If you have any questions about anything above or you want me to expand on something or need clarification shoot me an email at angelcicely@gmail.com or message me on Facebook.